Finally, CNN has posted an article on why it's ok not to date. I personally do not date. I despise dating these days. I find it so weird that girls have to dress themselves up in order to find the love of their life. Here's my theory, if someone's going to like me, they should like me for looking like me. I know that theory is worn out and everyone says it but no one believes it. If you actually believed it, you wouldn't be putting on four pounds of makeup in order to go to a club. You wouldn't be wearing skirts and dresses that reveal more than they should. Why should I bother straightening my hair for the sake of getting a date? If someone wants to date me, they should like me when I wear my loose jeans and comfy shirts. There's no point in putting up a front, it makes no sense to wear sexy clothes and high heels for the first few dates. You can't tell if that person likes you for who you are or what you wear (or sometimes what you don't wear).
I love the line from the article that says "There are plenty of cheerful single women who are neither desperate nor lonely." Now I may not be a ray of sunshine, but I am definitely not desperate or lonely. I enjoy being alone, some people see it as being anti-social, I see it as enjoying my own company. Maybe I'm selfish, I'm not too good at sharing. I've shared my heart one too many times, become emotionally attached, given all I had, then got screwed in the end. I'm sure this has happened to all of us, but it's happened to me in extreme ways. I don't want to play the dating game either. I don't want to become emotionally attached. I don't want to be the girl waiting by the phone for a call or text message. I don't want to have to worry about someone else or get jealous when they choose to hang out with someone else over me. I don't want to have to worry about my heart getting broken either. I seem to have "bum radar" if there is a bum within a five mile radius, I seem to attract them.
And it stinks sometimes because some people think I'm odd because I don't date. They think there is something wrong with me because I don't want to find the love of my life. I already have plenty of love in my life, why on earth do I need to frazzle myself looking for more? I love singing, playing my piano, painting, knitting, tv, and my newest obsession, playing video games. If I had to date someone, I would have to give up one of my loves to make time for that person. I'm not willing to do that especially when I know that the relationship will end. There will be a fight, or jealousy, possibly unfaithfulness (not on my part), along with a ton of other issues. I will end up heart broken and bitter, hating everything having to do with everyone.
I may not be drunk, lonely, infectious, desperate, or not over a past love, but I have my own reasons for not dating. Love me or leave me, I don't care, because I'm perfectly content being alone. Maybe you should try it?
Sincerely,
Advice Queen Jean
Saturday, September 27, 2008
Thursday, September 18, 2008
Diets: The Good, The Bad, And The Disgusting
It seems like everyone these days wants to lose weight! America is trying to move in a healthier direction in order to help prevent diseases. I think it's great that so many people want to lose weight, but are they really helping their long term heath? There are so many diets, The Atkins Diet, South Beach Diet, along with meal plans like NutriSystem and Jenny Craig. Let's not forget about diet pills, one of the more recent ones is Alli, but there are many dietary supplements that contain mysterious herbs. Well, a lot of these plans and pills are ok for a quick fix, but not for long term benefits. Think about it, if extreme diet plans and pills really worked, no one would be obese!
My theory is that our bodies need all the basic food groups. We need carbohydrates, proteins, fruits and vegetables, whole grains, dairy, and a little bit of fats and sweets every now and again. Any time you cut out a major food group, you are causing your body go out of wack. Problems such as low blood sugar can occur, that can not only make you feel terrible, but it could lead to death. Or your body may become accustomed not to having a certain food group that once you try to introduce it back into your system, it can make you terribly ill.
Nutrisystem and Jenny Craig are decent ideas for short term help. Those plans help you to realize how much you need to eat in order to survive every day. They are meant to help people who have problems with portion control. Of course they boast the benefits of using the glycemic index to help you lose weight while staying fuller longer. Commercials for these programs can be very misleading, they make it seem like you don't even have to exercise! If you read the fine print at the bottom of the screen it says "Results not typical." My question is, what are the results? Five pounds? Ten pounds? Fifteen pounds? You may not even lose weight on the program if you don't exercise, you might end up gaining weight!
Alli has been proclaimed a weight loss miracle drug, it helps to reduce the amount of fat your body retains. Alli works during the Lipase phase of digestion where fat is broken down into smaller amounts and then stored for energy. The pill helps to prevent this phase, allowing the fat to pass through your digestive tract without being stored. In order for this pill to work, you have to monitor the amount of fat your consume each day. We've all heard about the side effects, diarrhea, gas, bloating, and the occassional inability to control your bowels. Sounds appealing right? I think that's the reason why it works so well, it's the fear factor. If you have a hamburger and milkshake for lunch, you may accidently go potty in your pants before you know it! So if you know that could happen, that will deter you from eating that hamburger and milkshake for lunch. Plus having diarrhea makes anyone lose weight! I have also read once you stop taking the pill, you could end up gaining all the weight back. Do you really want to live in fear of having an accident for the rest of your life for the sake of losing weight? I know I don't.
Here's what I recommend, watch what you eat and exercise! It's not as hard as you think to practice portion control, here are some common examples you can use.
Exercise doesn't have to require a gym membership either. Walk around your block briskly or if you have the luxury of living near a park, tackle a trail or two. If you live in a two story house, try running up and down the stairs for five or ten minutes. You can always switch it up by working with light weights. You can exercise while watching tv, during the commercials do arm curls with a five pound weight, you don't even have to stand up to do this! When going to the grocery store or mall, park farther away from the entrance and you will be shedding calories just by going shopping. Sometimes it's the little things we change in our lives that make the biggest difference.
Remember, in order to have safe weight loss, portion control and exercise is the way to go!
Sincerely,
Advice Queen Jean
My theory is that our bodies need all the basic food groups. We need carbohydrates, proteins, fruits and vegetables, whole grains, dairy, and a little bit of fats and sweets every now and again. Any time you cut out a major food group, you are causing your body go out of wack. Problems such as low blood sugar can occur, that can not only make you feel terrible, but it could lead to death. Or your body may become accustomed not to having a certain food group that once you try to introduce it back into your system, it can make you terribly ill.
Nutrisystem and Jenny Craig are decent ideas for short term help. Those plans help you to realize how much you need to eat in order to survive every day. They are meant to help people who have problems with portion control. Of course they boast the benefits of using the glycemic index to help you lose weight while staying fuller longer. Commercials for these programs can be very misleading, they make it seem like you don't even have to exercise! If you read the fine print at the bottom of the screen it says "Results not typical." My question is, what are the results? Five pounds? Ten pounds? Fifteen pounds? You may not even lose weight on the program if you don't exercise, you might end up gaining weight!
Alli has been proclaimed a weight loss miracle drug, it helps to reduce the amount of fat your body retains. Alli works during the Lipase phase of digestion where fat is broken down into smaller amounts and then stored for energy. The pill helps to prevent this phase, allowing the fat to pass through your digestive tract without being stored. In order for this pill to work, you have to monitor the amount of fat your consume each day. We've all heard about the side effects, diarrhea, gas, bloating, and the occassional inability to control your bowels. Sounds appealing right? I think that's the reason why it works so well, it's the fear factor. If you have a hamburger and milkshake for lunch, you may accidently go potty in your pants before you know it! So if you know that could happen, that will deter you from eating that hamburger and milkshake for lunch. Plus having diarrhea makes anyone lose weight! I have also read once you stop taking the pill, you could end up gaining all the weight back. Do you really want to live in fear of having an accident for the rest of your life for the sake of losing weight? I know I don't.
Here's what I recommend, watch what you eat and exercise! It's not as hard as you think to practice portion control, here are some common examples you can use.
- Deck of cards- the size of one serving of meat, poultry, or fish.
- Baseball- the size of one of one serving of vegetables or fruit.
- Six dice- the size of one serving of cheese.
- CD- the size of one serving of pancakes or waffles.
- Computer mouse- the serving size of a baked potato.
- Rounded handful- a snack size for raw, cooked, dried fruits or vegetables or a full serving rice or pasta.
- Thumb tip- one teaspoon of peanut butter.
Exercise doesn't have to require a gym membership either. Walk around your block briskly or if you have the luxury of living near a park, tackle a trail or two. If you live in a two story house, try running up and down the stairs for five or ten minutes. You can always switch it up by working with light weights. You can exercise while watching tv, during the commercials do arm curls with a five pound weight, you don't even have to stand up to do this! When going to the grocery store or mall, park farther away from the entrance and you will be shedding calories just by going shopping. Sometimes it's the little things we change in our lives that make the biggest difference.
Remember, in order to have safe weight loss, portion control and exercise is the way to go!
Sincerely,
Advice Queen Jean
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Money, money, money!
Now I'm the type of gal who believes a woman should have her own money. Here recently, I've been hearing around that when some women get married, they throw all of their money into a joint checking account and let the husband worry about the finances. This may sound all fine and dandy in the beginning. Why shouldn't it? You love your husband, he's absolutely perfect in your eyes, he can do no wrong, he treats you like a princess. Oh joys of joys you found the man of your dreams!
Approximately 50% of all marriages in the United States end in divorce. That means there is a fairly decent chance that your marriage won't work. I may sound pessimistic and mean, but I'm stating the facts. But you know, since your husband is perfect, you won't have to worry about it. People change, every single day we change whether or not we recognize it. Some men go crazy after getting married, they get possessive and attempt to control every aspect of your life. Or sometimes a man will go out and get himself into a bit of trouble with a little affair that turns into a big affair. Marriage could be a bit too hard for him and he doesn't know how to cope so he turns to drugs and alcohol or even gambling. And this is why a woman needs to have her own money.
My advice to you is to have your own checking account, let your husband have his own, and then have a joint savings account that you both contribute to. What if you have to run away from your controlling husband? You can't do that if you don't have your own money. What if your husband blows through the joint savings on drugs, alcohol, and gambling? You're going to be in some deep doo doo if you don't have your own money. Consider having your own money a back up plan, it will always be there if you need it.
And if by chance you have a truly great husband, then having your own money could be helpful within your marriage. What if you want to buy him a really nice present for his Birthday without him knowing? If you have shared money, that means you have shared records, meaning your husband can see you withdrew $200 from the ATM and you might get a few questions about it. In reality you were buying him a new pair of golf shoes but he doesn't know that. If you had your own money he wouldn't be questioning you.
Some people may be offended by this post, it may appear that I am making every man look like scum of the earth. Well, not all men are scum of the earth and there are also some pretty awful women out there. Doo doo happens and it's always best to have that safety net. Don't rely on your partner for your personal financial stability. You are your own person, you cannot rely on the other person for everything. That's why you need a plan for protection.
Sincerely,
Advice Queen Jean
Approximately 50% of all marriages in the United States end in divorce. That means there is a fairly decent chance that your marriage won't work. I may sound pessimistic and mean, but I'm stating the facts. But you know, since your husband is perfect, you won't have to worry about it. People change, every single day we change whether or not we recognize it. Some men go crazy after getting married, they get possessive and attempt to control every aspect of your life. Or sometimes a man will go out and get himself into a bit of trouble with a little affair that turns into a big affair. Marriage could be a bit too hard for him and he doesn't know how to cope so he turns to drugs and alcohol or even gambling. And this is why a woman needs to have her own money.
My advice to you is to have your own checking account, let your husband have his own, and then have a joint savings account that you both contribute to. What if you have to run away from your controlling husband? You can't do that if you don't have your own money. What if your husband blows through the joint savings on drugs, alcohol, and gambling? You're going to be in some deep doo doo if you don't have your own money. Consider having your own money a back up plan, it will always be there if you need it.
And if by chance you have a truly great husband, then having your own money could be helpful within your marriage. What if you want to buy him a really nice present for his Birthday without him knowing? If you have shared money, that means you have shared records, meaning your husband can see you withdrew $200 from the ATM and you might get a few questions about it. In reality you were buying him a new pair of golf shoes but he doesn't know that. If you had your own money he wouldn't be questioning you.
Some people may be offended by this post, it may appear that I am making every man look like scum of the earth. Well, not all men are scum of the earth and there are also some pretty awful women out there. Doo doo happens and it's always best to have that safety net. Don't rely on your partner for your personal financial stability. You are your own person, you cannot rely on the other person for everything. That's why you need a plan for protection.
Sincerely,
Advice Queen Jean
Welcome
Hello Everyone!
I'm so excited to be writing this blog! I'm the type of person who can find an answer for anything. If there is a will, there is a way, and I always seem to find the way. I've been the type of person who my friends come to for advice. I've been told I'm wise beyond my years and throughout difficult times, I've realized how true that saying was.
The way this is going to work for now is that I am going to post blogs about topics that a person may have questions about. And if any of all have questions about a difficult situation you're going through, I'm here to help. Don't worry, I will never disclose your personal information to anyone and if I must use a name to help a person in my blog, I will create a fake name for that person. Your privacy is important to me.
I hope you enjoy reading this blog and maybe it will help you to gain insight into your life.
Sincerely,
Advice Queen Jean
I'm so excited to be writing this blog! I'm the type of person who can find an answer for anything. If there is a will, there is a way, and I always seem to find the way. I've been the type of person who my friends come to for advice. I've been told I'm wise beyond my years and throughout difficult times, I've realized how true that saying was.
The way this is going to work for now is that I am going to post blogs about topics that a person may have questions about. And if any of all have questions about a difficult situation you're going through, I'm here to help. Don't worry, I will never disclose your personal information to anyone and if I must use a name to help a person in my blog, I will create a fake name for that person. Your privacy is important to me.
I hope you enjoy reading this blog and maybe it will help you to gain insight into your life.
Sincerely,
Advice Queen Jean
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